Parents Q&A

Questions have been answered by Dr. Jane Nelsen and Certified Positive Discipline Trainers. Please use the Blog Search to find specific topics.


 

Rude to Grandparents

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Hi! I just attended Jane's Positive Discipline Seminar and I have her book, Positive Discipline for Preschoolers next to my bed. I love all your material and it has begun to save my relationship with my 5 year old son. I say begun to save, because we're having to undo so much of what we thought we were supposed to be doing in the name of discipline, but at least we're trying and some things are turning around. 



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Hitting A-Z and More

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I have a son who will be 4 in two weeks and a 13-month-old son. The oldest has been through a series of hitting phases since the spring. I have read 3 of your books, and was relieved to learn that I already use much of the positive discipline style. He will often hit or push his brother, myself, dad, or other children.

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Aggressive Preschooler

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Apparently for the past "few weeks" my almost 3-year-old has been pushing and shoving his classmates in his preschool. Today the teacher told me that he poked a little girl in the face and made her cry then refused to look at her when the teacher asked him to tell her he was sorry. I don't know why she didn't tell me this when it first started happening, so I'm not sure exactly when it started. The teacher says there is generally no interaction between my son and the victim prior to the pushing/shoving/hitting. He's just spontaneously doing it.

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Aggressive Sibling

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I have a happy easy going five-year-old boy who recently started hitting and scratching his 2 ½ year-old sister and behaving much more defiant. I try not to react with anger—which it really does make me, because my siblings and I fought often and never learned to not hit, we went to school with scabs on our arms from scratching each other.

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Six Year Old Talks Too Much

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I have a 6yr old son in kindergarten. He is constantly getting in trouble for talking. I have done just about everything I know to do to quiet him. I know children like to talk, but this is really getting out of control.

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Strong Willed Child

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I have so many issues I don't even know where to begin. I am the proud mother of a beautiful 2 year old daughter. She is the light of my life but boy are we having troubles. She is very independent and strong-willed. Also very LOUD!!!

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Independent Intelligent Kindergartner

I have a very independent, intelligent Kindergartner (an only child) who chooses not to follow directions in class and at home. When I ask her to stop doing something she has to do it one more time before she stops.

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My son is beginning to call me stupid, hit me, and says he hates me.

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A little background: My son is 4 years old. My husband and I went through separation, divorce, and now a property settlement/custody case. My ex-husband was physically, mentally, and emotionally abusive, in front of our son.

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Dealing With a Strong-Willed 3-Year-Old

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You mentioned family meetings as an approach to dealing with a strong-willed child, but indicated that it works for children 4 and older. What about a strong-willed 3-yr-old who absolutely has to have everything her own way and goes completely ballistic if we don't do exactly what she expects?

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Disrespectful Teen

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We are at our wits end trying to discipline our 13-yr. old son. He is VERY disrespectful...(the more I do for him - the more he disrespects us). We thought we were disciplining him the "right way" - but no - its not working. He has gone weeks w/o the things he enjoys the most. It doesn't make a difference. HELP!

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Online Learning

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