An activity from The Positive Discipline Workbook by Jane Nelsen Click Here to Download a PDF Version of this activity. When embarking upon the journey into Positive Discipline, it helps to have a destination in mind, and a road map to help you get there. Creating a list of characteristics and life skills you hope to have your […]
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Five-Year-Old Lying and Constantly in Trouble
Question: Hi, I have a daughter who just turned 5 and a 20-month-old son. My daughter is constantly giving us trouble, at home and at day care. I’ll start with…she actually bit someone a few weeks ago at school. I couldn’t believe it at her age. Then when I asked her who she bit, she […]
I love you, AND the answer is, “No.”
by Dr. Jane Nelsen Rudolf Dreikurs taught the importance of being both Kind and Firm in our relations with children. Kindness is important in order to show respect for the child. Firmness is important in order to show respect for ourselves and for the needs of the situation. Authoritarian methods usually lack kindness. Permissive methods […]
18 WAYS TO AVOID POWER STRUGGLES
power-struggle.png by Jane Nelsen Power struggles create distance and hostility instead of closeness and trust. Distance and hostility create resentment, resistance, rebellion (or compliance with lowered self-esteem). Closeness and trust create a safe learning environment. You have a positive influence only in an atmosphere of closeness and trust where there is no fear of blame, […]
Exhausted From Raising a Toddler
crayons-on-wall.jpg Question: I have read a lot on your site, looking for some specific solutions for toddlers and I find that even the advice that is supposed to be for toddlers really seems too advanced for my 22-month-old. Let me tell you what my problem is…my 22-month-old has been having a lot of outbursts that […]
Rebelling
Question: rebellious-teen-02.jpg My wife and I do not know what to do about our daughter’s rebelling. She refuses to do anything that we ask her to do. She has been caught drinking, smoking cigarettes, shoplifting, and possibly using drugs. We do not want to drive her away, but we feel very strongly about these issues. […]
Have Faith in Students
by Dr. Jane Nelsen and Dr. Kelly Gfroerer, from their book Positive Discipline Tools for Teachers. have-faith-teacher-cartoon.jpg What does it mean to have faith in students? It doesn’t mean abandoning students to figure out everything for themselves. It means having more faith in how much they can handle, even if it means they have […]
Greetings
by Dr. Kelly Gfroerer and Dr. Jane Nelsen Greeting students personally creates an immediate connection with each student. greetings-teacher-cartoon.jpg A teacher’s morning greeting can make a big difference in how their students approach the entire school day. Rudolf Dreikurs encouraged teachers not to miss this opportunity to connect with students as they enter […]
Divorce
An Excerpt from Positive Discipline A-Z, by Jane Nelsen, Lynn Lott, and H. Stephen Glenn divorce.jpg Question “I want to get a divorce, but I’m so afraid it will hurt my children. Should I stay in my marriage for the sake of the children?” Answer Understanding Your Child, Yourself, and the Situation Many circumstances in […]
CURIOSITY QUESTIONS
by Dr. Jane Nelsen curiosity-questions-motivational-parents.jpg Helping children explore the consequences of their choices is much different from imposing consequences on them. Exploring invites the participation of children to think for themselves and figure out the consequences of their choice, to decide what is important to them, and how to achieve what they want. The end […]