small-steps-parents-web.jpg A Positive Discipline Parenting Tool As parents, we can of course do everything better and quicker than our children. But how does this help your child? You have to decide if perfection and expediency are more important than encouraging your child to develop a deep belief in his or her capability. Parents may […]
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Tone of Voice
Excerpt from Positive Discipline Parenting Tools by Jane Nelsen, Mary Nelsen Tamborski, and Brad Ainge tone-of-voice-web.jpg A Positive Discipline Tool Card Have you noticed how terrible it feels to listen to another parent scold a child? Because you are not emotionally involved, you notice the shrinking posture of the child and empathize with the shame […]
Gemeinschaftsgefühl
A Message from Dr. Jane Nelsen German Gemeinschaftsgefühl, from Gemeinschaft (“community, neighborship”) + Gefühl (“feeling”) (literally) “Community feeling” or “social interest”; used by Adlerian psychologists to describe the state of social connectedness and interest in the well-being of others that characterizes psychological health. During this challenging time, I would like to share what I learned from our Chinese friends. The government mandate […]
Spend Special Time
How Do You Spend Time That Counts? Excerpt from Positive Discipline for Teenagers, by Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott b110-revised.jpg DURING THE TEEN years, when your children spend less and less time with you, it’s more important than ever to connect in ways that really count. Unfortunately, there are several conditions that make […]
Decide What You Will Do For Teachers
Excerpt from Positive Discipline Tools for Teachers by Dr. Jane Nelsen and Dr. Kelly Gfroerer b132.jpg Decide what you will do, not what you will try to make students do. There is so much focus in Positive Discipline on getting students involved in solutions, validating their feelings, asking them questions, understanding their behavior, connecting […]
Don’t Back-Talk Back: A Nanny Perspective
nanny-park.jpg Years ago, I was digging through parenting books, blogs, articles, & podcasts, trying to find something that resonated with me and worked consistently with my nanny charges. Thank goodness I finally found Positive Discipline! One key aspect of Positive Discipline that really sets it apart is the mutual respect for the adults & the […]
Connecting With the World
Connection is a key concept of Positive Discipline, and 2019 was all about connecting with people around the world who are creating respectful relationships in homes and schools. Read the stories below about some of our highlights this past year. medellin-social.jpg Positive Discipline in Medellín, Colombia On October 19th, during Jane Nelsen´s visit to Medellín, […]
Parenting Teens: How Do You Know When Your Child Becomes a Teen?
The following is an excerpt from the book, Positive Discipline for Teenagers by Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott. You know you have a teenager when you hear yourself complaining, “She has no purpose. He won‘t help. She only cares about her friends. He is so self-centered. Her room is a mess. I can‘t trust him. […]
Is Something Tougher than Positive Discipline Needed?
dejected-boy.jpg Question: I am the mother of a 3-year-old boy (his birthday is actually tomorrow) and he is also a student in my Montessori school. Over the year he has been at school we have had many challenges with me being “around” a lot and never really having that separation from me that other kids get. […]
No More Logical Consequences (at least hardly ever) Focus On Solutions
by Dr. Jane Nelsen During a class meeting, students in a fifth grade class were asked to brainstorm logical consequences for two students who didn’t hear the recess bell and were late for class. Following is their list of “consequences:” The students were then asked to forget about consequences and brainstorm for solutions that would […]