by H. Stephen Glenn & Jane Nelsen From the book Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World. Every human being is born with the potential to become the world’s most capable creature, not with the capabilities themselves. Unlike the amoeba, which is capable of functioning at its full potential from creation, humans acquire their capabilities primarily […]
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Whining
Question: “My child whines and it is driving me crazy. Punishment and bribery haven’t worked. Does it sound like I’m whining? Please help!” Answer: Excerpt from the book Positive Discipline A-Z. Understanding Your Child, Yourself, and the Situation Children do what works. If your child is whining, he or she is getting a response from […]
4.5 year old who talks back
Question: How should I handle a 4.5 year old who talks back to me? Answer: I decided to answer your question by sending you another excerpt from Positive Discipline A-Z on disrespect. DISRESPECT My child is often disrespectful to me. She talks back in a sassy manner, yells at me, and sometimes calls me names. The […]
Laughter at Discipline
Question: My husband and I bought your book “Positive Discipline A to Z” about two years ago and we have referred to it from time to time. It has helped here and there. However, there seems to be one thing I can’t find in the book. Our two younger children laugh when we try to […]
Weaning from the Pacifier
Question: I received the following question from Tiana: I would like to know if you have any suggestions as to how to help get my children (21/2 and 41/2 years old) off of using a pacifier. I have never really worried about it before and let them use it as they please because I know […]
Control or Cooperation
Are you trying to gain control over children or with children? Trying to gain control over children is hard. It takes constant effort. You have to be very vigilant to police the action of children so you can implement your control tactics—usually punishment and rewards. You have to catch children being “good” so you can […]
Positive Discipline in Egypt
Lynn Lott and I have been overwhelmed (in a good way), and excited about the spread of our Teaching Parenting the Positive Discipline Way Training. It has now been purchased in 80 countries. We were delighted to receive these photos from a group of women in Egypt practicing the experiential activities to receive their certificate […]
My 13 year old daughter had a babysitting job last Saturday night.
Question: My 13 year old daughter had a babysitting job last Saturday night. Sunday evening, the mother of the children phoned to tell me that my daughter had company over, four other friends to be exact, very shortly after the children went to bed and the people left for the evening. This is totally […]
Bedwetting
Question: I have a 4-year-old son (he’ll be 5 in 2 weeks) who is having a great deal of trouble staying dry at night. After he was first potty trained at around 3 1/2 he stayed dry at night and would get up by himself and go to the bathroom. About 6 months ago […]
Spanking Your Child
Question: I am doing a paper for a class I am in. I was wondering what you think about spanking your child. Do you think it is wrong? If so please specify. Thank you. Answer: I absolutely do not believe in spanking. I believe in using methods that are effective long-term, not […]