praise-is-like-candy.jpg Question I’m at my wits end with my 13-year-old girl. We have been following Positive Discipline for about 2 years now and it’s changed so much in our house with how we act and speak to our girls, our other daughter is 9. This last month we are having a problem with the “Praise” […]
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FRIEND OR PARENT
by Jane Nelsen, co-author of Positive Discipline for Teenagers. friend-or-parent.jpg I just received an interesting question from a journalist wondering if parents could be both a friend and a disciplinarian. Following is my answer: I’m not sure what you mean by disciplinarian and what you mean by friend. When people say, “You should be a […]
3 ½-year-old Tantrums
Question: crying-boy.jpg I just entered the world of Positive Discipline and I love it. I feel like I can be a really great mother—even more than I already am. I feel challenged with my 3 ½ year old! He is very specific about things. If he gets something in his mind, it must be that way, […]
Interrupting
Question: My husband and I came to one of your seminars in February. One subject you didn’t touch on was interrupting. Our 4 1/2 year old does it all the time. How can we stop it? It drives my husband and me crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks Lisa Answer: b108-a.jpg Hi Lisa, Following is an excerpt […]
Curiosity Questions Conversational
by Kelly Gfroerer and Jane Nelsen The root of education is educare—to draw forth. 1. Children will listen to you AFTER they feel listened to. 2. When children hear a command, a signal is sent to the brain that invites resistance. When children hear a respectful question, a signal is sent to the brain to […]
Contribution in the Classroom
by Jane Nelsen and Kelly Gfroerer Students feel belonging (connection) and significance (capable) when they have opportunities to contribute. In contrast to behaviorism, which advocates for external rewards and punishment in the classroom to motivate change, Positive Discipline tools teach the best way to change behavior is from the inside out. And, one of the […]
Teaching Positive Time Out Helps Students Learn Tools for Self-Regulation
Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, first we have to make them feel worse? —Jane Nelsen Research shows that punitive time-out is ineffective because forced separation from the class denies the student’s basic need for inclusion and belonging. As far back as 2004 the National Association […]
Parent-Teacher-Student Conferences
by Dr. Kelly Gfroerer and Dr. Jane Nelsen Conferences are respectful when parents, teachers, and students are all included. parent-teacher-studen-conferences-cartoon.jpg As a teacher and school counselor I experienced again and again how helpful it is to include students in conferences. It provides an opportunity for students, teachers, and parents to check-in and collaborate on […]
Act Without Words for Teachers
pd-tools-for-teachers-book.jpg Below is an excerpt from the book, Positive Discipline Tools for Teachers by Dr. Jane Nelsen and Dr. Kelly Gfroerer. Do you sometimes have the feeling that your students don’t hear a word you say? You are probably right—especially when a mistaken goal is involved. For example, if a student’s mistaken goal is […]
Caring
caring.jpg Maya Angelou once shared, “I have learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Positive Discipline Tools for Teachers help teachers find ways to connect and show they care on a daily basis. Class meetings, giving individual students […]