After taking a two-day Teaching Parenting the Positive Discipline Way workshop to become a Certified Positive Discipline Parent Education, some participants decide they want more training to become a Certified Positive Discipline Associate. (More info at www.positivediscipline.org) To begin the process they write a Letter of Intent. I was so moved by Julia Tomes letter […]
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Instead of Saying No, Try
I was very pleased to discover Dr. Annie Castle’s blog on Positive Discipline. She has kindly given me permission to post an excerpt from her blog. Thank you Annie for this excellent list of suggestions. J by Annie Castle Deckert, M.Ed.Psych This thing called “Positive Discipline” really does work. Most parents realize that […]
Punishment or Not: The Debate Goes On and On and On
I have a Google alert that lets me know any time my name or Positive Discipline is mentioned on the Internet. This morning I read a blog by James Rivera on Spanking, grounding, and yelling: Does old-fashioned discipline work? One thing that surprised me is the number of his readers who still believe in […]
Positive Discipline Evidence Based
The reason I have used Positive Discipline (based on the work of Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs), in my own life and to share with others, is that it works. Thousands of parents have shared with me that it works for them to improve their relationships with their children and to help their children learn […]
Positive Discipline and Pampering: More on Kind and Firm and the Same Time
I know that people who are against punishment are drawn to Positive Discipline, but they often see only the kind part and take that kindness to the extreme. Why is it that human beings seem most comfortable when thinking in extremes? The pendulum seems to swing back and forth in argument for being very strict […]
Hugs to Create a Connection
Many of you know that “Hugs” is one of my favorite Positive Discipline Tool Cards. A hug is one of the best ways to create the important theme of Positive Discipline: Connection Before Correction. I have been receiving some great hug stories and have decided to start collecting them and sharing them with you. […]
You Can’t Give Your Children Self-Esteem
Many parents say, “I want to give my children self-esteem.” However, you can’t “give” self-esteem to any one. Self-esteem is personally developed from within. Even that is not entirely true. Have you ever noticed how fleeting is self-esteem? One minute you feel really great about yourself. Then someone criticizes you or you make a mistake […]
Enthusiastic about their successes with Positive Discipline
It is always fun to interview someone who is so enthusiastic about their successes with Positive Discipline. Following is the email I received from Stephanie Peterson-Ferrel before calling her for an interview. Be sure to check out her website. Her writing is humorous and captures the feelings of many people. Dear Dr. Nelsen, I’m not […]
Help! A Teenager Has Moved into My Child's Body!
by Mike Brock Help! A Teenager Has Moved into My Child’s Body! Parents, have you experienced the teenage time warp phenomenon yet? One minute you’re snuggling with your kindergarten-age child, who has crawled into your bed on a lazy Saturday morning, and the next minute you’re staring at a Keep Out sign on her bedroom […]
Christmas Toys: Overindulgence or an Opportunity for Effective Parenting
Every Christmas, advertising creates a shortage for the latest toy rage. Remember the year it was Furbys? That was the “good old days, when a popular toy was less expensive. Now they are iPads, xBoxes, or iPhones—items that cost hundreds of dollars. And what do parents do? Anything they can to make sure their little […]