kind-blog.jpg A foundation of Positive Discipline is to be kind and firm at the same time. Some parents are kind, but not firm. Others are firm, but not kind. Many parents vacillate between the two—being too kind until they can’t stand their kids (who develop an entitlement attitude) and then being too firm until they […]
Category Archives: Parents
Family Meetings
by Dr. Jane Nelsen family-meeting.jpg It is difficult for me to choose a favorite Positive Discipline parenting tool, but family meetings are at the top. Children learn so much during family meetings, such as listening, respecting differences, verbalizing appreciation, problem-solving, focusing on solutions, and experiencing that mistakes are wonderful opportunities to learn. I have […]
Connection Before Correction
connection-before-correction-18.jpg by Dr. Jane Nelsen The one Positive Discipline Tool I wish I had used more consistently is this: Connection before Correction. Of course, I didn’t know what this meant as a young mother, and didn’t create it as a Positive Discipline tool until about five years ago. Now we know it is just […]
52 Positive Discipline Parenting Tools in 52 Weeks
Take the 52 Parenting Tools in 52 Weeks Challenge. This is a fun way to stay focused on Positive Discipline all year long. We hope you will participate and post comments about your own experiences. You can get a copy of the Positive Discipline Parenting Tool Cards and/or download the App for iPhone and Android. […]
A History of Positive Discipline
jane-1980s.jpg by Dr. Jane Nelsen Positive Discipline is based on the philosophy and teachings of Alfred Adler and Rudolph Dreikurs. I was not privileged to study under either of these great men, but I would like to acknowledge the people who introduced me to the Adlerian approach. It has changed my life and greatly […]
Positive Discipline Online Class – Routine Charts
by Pamela Laney One of my LEAST favorite duties as a parent was the constant “reminding” that happened every day: Brush your teeth. Don’t forget your backpack. Did you do you take out the trash yet? You have soccer practice today. Do your homework! This constant flow of “helpful prompts” made me feel like a […]
Small Steps
small-steps-parents-web.jpg A Positive Discipline Parenting Tool As parents, we can of course do everything better and quicker than our children. But how does this help your child? You have to decide if perfection and expediency are more important than encouraging your child to develop a deep belief in his or her capability. Parents may […]
Tone of Voice
Excerpt from Positive Discipline Parenting Tools by Jane Nelsen, Mary Nelsen Tamborski, and Brad Ainge tone-of-voice-web.jpg A Positive Discipline Tool Card Have you noticed how terrible it feels to listen to another parent scold a child? Because you are not emotionally involved, you notice the shrinking posture of the child and empathize with the shame […]
Gemeinschaftsgefühl
A Message from Dr. Jane Nelsen German Gemeinschaftsgefühl, from Gemeinschaft (“community, neighborship”) + Gefühl (“feeling”) (literally) “Community feeling” or “social interest”; used by Adlerian psychologists to describe the state of social connectedness and interest in the well-being of others that characterizes psychological health. During this challenging time, I would like to share what I learned from our Chinese friends. The government […]
Spend Special Time
How Do You Spend Time That Counts? Excerpt from Positive Discipline for Teenagers, by Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott b110-revised.jpg DURING THE TEEN years, when your children spend less and less time with you, it’s more important than ever to connect in ways that really count. Unfortunately, there are several conditions that make […]