anger-wheel-card-2019-web.jpg by Jane Nelsen When I was growing up, I didn’t know that anger is just a feeling. To me anger meant withdrawal of love. My mother didn’t tell me she was angry. She just wouldn’t speak to me for days. However, she did “speak” loud and clear with the look of disgust and disapproval […]
Category Archives: Teachers
SILENT SIGNALS
by Dr. Jane Nelsen Try a silent (secret) signal. (Kids love the secret part—especially when they have helped create it.) Creating silent signals can be part of “taking time for training” (another great tool card). silent-signals.jpg The silent signal illustrated on the Positive Discipline Tool Card is to point to your watch when you […]
Show Faith
show-faith-parents.jpg A Positive Discipline Tool Card One of the biggest mistakes some parents and teachers make, when they decide to use Positive Discipline, is becoming too permissive because they don’t want to be punitive. Some mistakenly believe they are being kind when they rescue their children, and protect them from all disappointment. This is not being […]
Sense of Humor
sense-of-humor-parents.jpg by Dr. Jane Nelsen No one ever said parenting had to be boring or unpleasant. Laughter is often the best way to approach a situation. Try saying, “Here comes the tickle monster to get children who don’t pick up their toys.” Learn to laugh together and to create games to get unpleasant jobs […]
Positive Time Out
positive-time-out.jpg An excerpt from Positive Time-Out Many parents and teachers say “Go to your room (or to the corner) and think about what you did.” I’m amazed that many adults don’t know the answer when I ask, “Do you know why that is a ludicrous statement?” They come up with all kinds of responses […]
Steps For Winning Cooperation
winning-cooperation-parents.jpg An excerpt from Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen Express understanding for the child’s feelings. Be sure to check with him to see if you are right. Show empathy without condoning. Empathy does not mean you agree or condone. It simply means you understand the child’s perception. Share a time when you have felt or […]
Back Talk
by Jane Nelsen dont-back-talk-back-parents.jpg A Positive Discipline Tool Card Mrs. Henderson told her son, Jon, for the third time that evening, “You had better do your homework before it gets too late.” Jon shot back, “If it is so important to you, why don’t you do it!” Mrs. Henderson was shocked. After all, she was […]
Gratitude – A Kids Tool Card Activity
kids-tool-cards-gratitude-cartoon.jpg An excerpt from the Positive Discipline Tools for Kids Guidebook (Coming Soon!) by Jane Nelsen, Aisha Pope, Mary Nelsen Tamborski, and Lois Ingber Today is Thanksgiving! A day to express our gratitude for the many blessings in our life. We recently released our new Kids Tool Cards which has a card specifically designed to […]
Understand the Brain Using the Palm of Your Hand
In their book, Parenting From the Inside Out (Tarcher/Penguin, 2004) Daniel Siegel and Mary Hartzell present an elegant and refreshingly (to us non-brain-scientists) understandable explanation of brain processes. In our Positive Discipline classes with both parents and teachers of children, this model remains one of the most useful and remembered tools. It’s called “Brain in the […]
New Positive Discipline Tools for Kids
a701-small.jpg The purpose of the Positive Discipline Tools for Kids program is to help children develop important life skills to encourage themselves and each other. Suggestions for using these cards: 1.) Keep the cards in a special basket for kids to access. When experiencing a challenge, kids can randomly choose a card. Have the […]