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Steps For Winning Cooperation

winning-cooperation-parents.jpg An excerpt from Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen   Express understanding for the child’s feelings. Be sure to check with him to see if you are right. Show empathy without condoning. Empathy does not mean you agree or condone. It simply means you understand the child’s perception. Share a time when you have felt or […]


Back Talk

by Jane Nelsen   dont-back-talk-back-parents.jpg A Positive Discipline Tool Card   Mrs. Henderson told her son, Jon, for the third time that evening, “You had better do your homework before it gets too late.” Jon shot back, “If it is so important to you, why don’t you do it!” Mrs. Henderson was shocked. After all, […]


Gratitude – A Kids Tool Card Activity

kids-tool-cards-gratitude-cartoon.jpg An excerpt from the Positive Discipline Tools for Kids Guidebook (Coming Soon!) by Jane Nelsen, Aisha Pope, Mary Nelsen Tamborski, and Lois Ingber   Today is Thanksgiving! A day to express our gratitude for the many blessings in our life. We recently released our new Kids Tool Cards which has a card specifically designed to […]


Understand the Brain Using the Palm of Your Hand

In their book, Parenting From the Inside Out (Tarcher/Penguin, 2004) Daniel Siegel and Mary Hartzell present an elegant and refreshingly (to us non-brain-scientists) understandable explanation of brain processes. In our Positive Discipline classes with both parents and teachers of children, this model remains one of the most useful and remembered tools. It’s called “Brain in the […]


New Positive Discipline Tools for Kids

a701-small.jpg The purpose of the Positive Discipline Tools for Kids program is to help children develop important life skills to encourage themselves and each other.   Suggestions for using these cards: 1.) Keep the cards in a special basket for kids to access. When experiencing a challenge, kids can randomly choose a card. Have the […]


The Wheel of Choice

wheel-of-choice-parents.jpg   Focusing on solutions is a primary theme of Positive Discipline, and kids are great at focusing on solutions when they are taught the skills and are allowed to practice them. The wheel of choice provides a fun and exciting way to involve kids in learning and practicing problem-solving skills, especially when they are […]


Hugs: A Positive Discipline Tool Card

by Jane Nelsen, author of the Positive Discipline series   hugs-tool-card-web-2016.jpg This tool card provides an example of asking for a hug when a child is having a temper tantrum, but that is certainly not the only time a hug can be an appropriate intervention when you understand the principle of hugs. Later, I’ll share […]


Allowances Can Teach the Life Skill of Money Management

allowance-parents.jpg by Dr. Jane Nelsen The Johnson family was about to complete their weekly grocery shopping when five-year-old Jimmy started coaxing for a toy car. Mom asked politely, “Have you saved enough money from your allowance to buy it?” Jimmy looked sad and said, “No.” Mom suggested, “Maybe you would like to save your allowance […]


THE THREE Rs OF RECOVERY

A Positive Discipline Tool Card 3rs-parents.jpg It is much easier to take responsibility for a mistake when it is seen as a learning opportunity rather than something to be ashamed of. If we see mistakes as bad we tend to feel inadequate and discouraged and may become defensive, evasive, judgmental, or critical of others or […]


Logical Consequences

by Jane Nelsen Logical consequences are different from Natural Consequences in that they require the intervention of an adult—or other children in a family meeting or a class meeting. It is important to decide what kind of consequence would create a helpful learning experience that might encourage children to choose responsible cooperation. For example, Linda […]