Many people are having fun applying the principles from the Positive Discipline Tool Cards. When they share their great examples, I ask for their permission to share with others. Take Time for Training I applied a few Take Time for Training strategies today during “room cleaning” day. In the past my procedure was as follows: […]
Category Archives: Parents
What is Positive Discipline?
jane-nelsen-1980s-web02.jpg I feel amazed and grateful for the growth of Positive Discipline. There are so many wonderful people all around the world using Positive Discipline in their daily lives. Our Positive Discipline Association is growing every day and I see people encouraging and helping each other apply the principles of Positive Discipline. Unfortunately with […]
Positive Discipline Guidelines
Download a PDF Version | en español pd-guidelines-image.png 1.) Misbehaving children are discouraged children who have mistaken ideas on how to achieve their primary goal — to belong. Their mistaken ideas lead them to misbehavior. We cannot be effective unless we address the mistaken beliefs rather than just the misbehavior. 2.) Use encouragement to help children feel “belonging” so […]
7 Easy Ways to Connect with Kids
Click Here to Download 7 Easy Ways to Connect with Kids Infographic. Versión en español Connection is one of the first tools we present because it is foundational to every other tool. No one (parent or child) can be at his or her best until the feeling of connection is established. Connection is the foundation of […]
Routines
by Dr. Jane Nelsen routines-parents-web-small.jpg Recently I was asked why children need routine charts when adults don’t need them. I pointed out that many adults create lists to help them keep track of what they want to do during the day, week, or month—and feel such a sense of accomplishment when they get to cross […]
Using Candles to Deal with the Belief Behind the Behavior
There is a belief behind every behavior, but we usually only deal with the behavior. Dealing with the belief behind the behavior does not mean you don’t deal with the behavior. You are most effective when you are aware of both the behavior and the belief behind it. The following is a classic example of […]
Positive Discipline Parenting Classes
We now have over 10,000 Certified Positive Discipline Facilitators teaching classes in many areas of the United States and in over 80 countries. Still, we have many requests from parents who cannot find a Positive Discipline Class in their area. For these people we offer the following suggestions: 1) Check our list of parenting classes. […]
Applying the Positive Discipline Principles
a101-new-2016.jpg Many people have participated in the 52 Positive Discipline Tools in 52 Weeks challenge. All of these Positive Discipline tools are amazing, but it can be overwhelming to try and apply them all at once. Taking the challenge of applying one Positive Discipline Tool each week is a great way to stay focused on improving your relationship […]
The Anger Wheel of Choice: Anger is Just a Feeling
anger-wheel-card-2019-web.jpg by Jane Nelsen When I was growing up, I didn’t know that anger is just a feeling. To me anger meant withdrawal of love. My mother didn’t tell me she was angry. She just wouldn’t speak to me for days. However, she did “speak” loud and clear with the look of disgust and disapproval […]
SILENT SIGNALS
by Dr. Jane Nelsen Try a silent (secret) signal. (Kids love the secret part—especially when they have helped create it.) Creating silent signals can be part of “taking time for training” (another great tool card). silent-signals.jpg The silent signal illustrated on the Positive Discipline Tool Card is to point to your watch when you […]