mom_hug_podcast.jpg Some of you may know that a Hug is one of my favorite Positive Discipline Tools. During this podcast you will understand why as I interview Beth Whitehead after she sent me the following success story. Dear Jane, As you may remember, I had a situation with my older daughter (3 yrs old) taking […]
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Connection Before Correction
connection_web.jpg Extensive research shows that we cannot influence children in a positive way until we create a connection with them. It is a brain (and heart) thing. Sometimes we have to stop dealing with the misbehavior and first heal the relationship. Connection creates a sense of safety and openness. Punishment, lecturing, nagging, scolding, blaming or […]
What Does Your Child Under Three Really "Know" About "No"?
no-no-web.png An excerpt from the book Positive Discipline The First Three Years Children under the age of three do not understand “no” in the way most parents think they do. (And, a full understanding of “no” doesn’t occur magically when the child turns three. It is a developmental process.) “No” is an abstract concept that is […]
Parenting and Teenagers
teenager-legs.jpg An excerpt from the Positive Discipline for Teenagers book by Dr. Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott. REMEMBER WHEN YOUR teen was a baby just learning to walk? What a milestone. You didn‘t want to miss any of it, and you were very supportive and encouraging. You would take her little hands in yours […]
Child Discipline: To Punish or Not
by Dr. Jane Nelsen discipline.jpg What do you think of when you hear the word “discipline”? Most people think of punishment. I invite you to think a little deeper starting with the exploration of the long-term results of punishment. When children are punished they do not learn self-discipline. Punishment provides “external” motivation. Self-discipline requires “inner” […]
Follow Through
follow_through_article_1.jpg by Cheryl Erwin You hear a lot of talk these days about boundaries. Oprah talks about setting healthy boundaries. Parenting books explain how to set boundaries. Parents everywhere understand the need for rules. So what, precisely, is it that makes discipline so frustrating? The way I see it, it isn’t setting the rules […]
A Misbehaving Child is a Discouraged Child
Where did we ever get the crazy idea that the way to make a child “do” better is to first make him or her “feel worse”? That is the premise of punishment; and it is truly crazy. Think of the last time you felt scolded and humiliated by another adult. Were you thinking, “This is […]
Parenting – The Positive Approach
facebook_news.jpg If you are a teacher, have you been teaching long enough to remember when children sat in neat rows and obediently did what they were told? If you are a parent, do you remember when children wouldn’t dare talk back to their parents? If you don’t, perhaps your grandparents do. Many parents and teachers […]
Special Time With Your Teenager
specialtimegolf_small.jpg When your child becomes a teenager, it is not uncommon for them to become defiant. They will often contradict you and even try to sabotage your best efforts to create a harmonious family life. This can be very discouraging to parents and usually results in constant power struggles. Positive Discipline has a great tool […]
Positive Time Out
positive-time-out.jpg by Dr. Jane Nelsen In many of our books we talk about “Positive Time Out.” There are several points that need to be made regarding time out for children who have not yet reached the age of reason: 1.) Any kind of time out should not be used with children under 3 1/2 years […]