Question: Do you know what website I could go to or give me some information on how to control my daughter (mouth).She is very verbal when she gets upset. I am divorced, but have been remarried for 5 years, and she is Basically very rude to step father who is more than generous to her, […]
Category Archives: Parents Q&A
Dealing With Impulsivity, Inability to Focus, and On-the-Go Hyperness of a 6-Yr-Old
Since you did not give me specific behaviors, I can only give you a general answer. I don’t know what your behavior is like, but as a therapist, I often found that when the parents calmed down so did the children. Parents with hyper children have found that all of the suggestions we make in […]
Adaptability and Mood Quality
Help I want her to be happy. Thanks. A.There are two factors to consider in the situation you describe.One factor is what your child does; the other factor is your response.First I will address what your child does.I’m sure you have heard it said many times that each child is unique.Obviously, she is very […]
Using Positive Discipline with Two Boys
Question: I discovered your books about a year ago. I have been trying to implement the positive discipline methods. I love your belief that mistakes are opportunities to learn. I have two boys, about 20 months apart. Scott was three in August and Mark will be 19 months at the end of December. My problem […]
Humiliation in the classroom
Q. My son (Talen) currently attends a Catholic school. He is in the Kindergarten. He has a very strong personality and wants his way ALL of the time in class and wants to do things in his own time. He gives his teacher a hard time and sometimes gets very angry (arms tightly crossed over […]
How to Approach a Teacher Who Uses Punishment
I am a parent of a 6 yr. old boy in the first grade who has had a few occasions of being reprimanded for talking during class. This happened this past week and his desk was moved away from the other students (along with 3 other class talkers). I felt that this consequence was acceptable […]
Angry, irritated, tone of voice
Q. My ten-year-old daughter speaks with an angry, irritated, tone of voice most of the time. We have discussed it with her. And she says she does not want to talk to us this way–yet the habit persists. We feel we talk to her with respect.The things we have tried include, discussions in family meetings, […]
Power Struggles with a 3 ½ yr. old
Dear Jane, Wow, thank you so much for the good advice on how to respond to the name calling.Your approach is very sensible.I have taken the RCB and Developing Capable People classes and have found them to be very enlightening. I do have another issue with my 3 ½ yr. old daughter, Ellen, that I […]
Sexual Acting Out and Behavior
Question: Recently my 7 ½ year old son had a friend for a sleep-over. While I was downstairs they were lying in the same bed. They kept acting up so bad that finally I separated and made them sleep in separate beds. The friend was very hyper so I lay down with him and talked […]
He hit me, so I had to hit him back.
Question: I have a 2-year-old boy and he is very stubborn. When he is in trouble… I do punish him to sit down but he refuses to sit down. He keeps coming up to me and says sorry, but he is not finished with his punishment. Im confused about spanking my kid. When he tried […]