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Six Year Old Talks Too Much

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I have a 6yr old son in kindergarten. He is constantly getting in trouble for talking. I have done just about everything I know to do to quiet him. I know children like to talk, but this is really getting out of control.

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Strong Willed Child

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I have so many issues I don't even know where to begin. I am the proud mother of a beautiful 2 year old daughter. She is the light of my life but boy are we having troubles. She is very independent and strong-willed. Also very LOUD!!!

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Independent Intelligent Kindergartner

I have a very independent, intelligent Kindergartner (an only child) who chooses not to follow directions in class and at home. When I ask her to stop doing something she has to do it one more time before she stops.

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My son is beginning to call me stupid, hit me, and says he hates me.

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A little background: My son is 4 years old. My husband and I went through separation, divorce, and now a property settlement/custody case. My ex-husband was physically, mentally, and emotionally abusive, in front of our son.

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Dealing With a Strong-Willed 3-Year-Old

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You mentioned family meetings as an approach to dealing with a strong-willed child, but indicated that it works for children 4 and older. What about a strong-willed 3-yr-old who absolutely has to have everything her own way and goes completely ballistic if we don't do exactly what she expects?

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Parenting Preschoolers

An excerpt from the book, Positive Discipline for Preschoolers.

Understanding your preschooler’s development and filling your toolbox with Positive Discipline parenting tools will go a long way toward resolving conflicts with your young child. It also helps to know that temperament, birth order, brain development, physical and intellectual abilities, and skill acquisition underlie much of your child’s behavior in these early years. Still, even the most delightful preschooler isn’t perfect, and misbehavior can be frustrating. Why do children misbehave? And what should parents do about it?

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Biting, Pinching and Scratching

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I am a stay at home mom of two children. I have a 18-month-old son and a 3-year-old daughter who are very stubborn and throw tantrums when they don't get their way. One thing that really upsets me is that my son scratches and bites other children.

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Positive Time Out

Many parents and teachers say "Go to your room (or to the corner) and think about what you did." I'm amazed that many adults don't know the answer when I ask, "Do you know why that is a ludicrous statement?"

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Kindness and Firmness at the Same Time

Rudolf Dreikurs taught the importance of being both kind and firm in our relations with children. Kindness is important in order to show respect for the child. Firmness is important in order to show respect for ourselves and for the needs of the situation. Authoritarian methods usually lack kindness. Permissive methods lack firmness. Kindness and firmness are essential for Positive Discipline.

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Disrespectful Teen

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We are at our wits end trying to discipline our 13-yr. old son. He is VERY disrespectful...(the more I do for him - the more he disrespects us). We thought we were disciplining him the "right way" - but no - its not working. He has gone weeks w/o the things he enjoys the most. It doesn't make a difference. HELP!

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