Question: I am a mother of 5 children aged 8, 7, 5, 4 and 8 months old. There are many things I could ask about but I have gained so much just through reading as much as I can through your website. As well as this, we plan to order at least one of your […]
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Morning Hassles and Power Struggles
Question: Hi Jane, My 4-year old recently started kindergarten and has to wear a school uniform. I tried to prepare her as much as I could over the summer about having to wear it for school. Thankfully we haven’t encountered any major issues in the morning when she has to put it on. A couple […]
Is Positive Discipline Permissive?
Question: I love your books! They have taught me so much about parenting in a non putative way, very different from the way I was raised. I have two daughters 12 and 14, and my husband has two sons 11 and 15. He has an authoritarian mindset when it comes to discipline, and I am […]
Three-year-old Love/Hate Relationship with Baby Brother
Question: I have a 3-year-old daughter and 7-month-old son. Until now my daughter has been really gentle with the baby but in the last couple of weeks she has been “testing” out being a bit rougher with him (pinching his cheeks, hugging him a bit too tight, giving him a kiss but holding on until […]
I See It, I Want It, I Take It
Question: My three year old started preschool last year at age 2 and with that came the “take it” behavior. I see it, I want it, and I take it no matter who is playing with it. She will play tug of war with her friends over whatever it is until one of them wins. […]
When is a Child Old Enough to Choose?
Question: Hi Dr. Nelsen, We seem to be having morning issues with my three-year-old daughter. She wanted to wear a dress this morning even though it was a little chilly out. My husband put pants and a shirt on her and she was practically convulsing on the floor in anger. Do you think a three-year-old […]
Lazy Child or Normal Child?
Question: Dear Jane, I am an American living in Germany and have been buying your books. They are great books with wonderful ideas, and I have had some success using the suggestions. Unfortunately real life cannot be completely covered in a book, and so I have a question. I have browsed through the previous questions […]
You Can’t Give Your Children Self-Esteem
Many parents say, “I want to give my children self-esteem.” However, you can’t “give” self-esteem to any one. Self-esteem is personally developed from within. Even that is not entirely true. Have you ever noticed how fleeting is self-esteem? One minute you feel really great about yourself. Then someone criticizes you or you make a mistake […]
My son keeps saying I don’t love him
Question: I recently bought the Positive Discipline A-Z book I have enjoyed reading it and learning from it. Recently my 5 year-old-son has not stopped saying, “You don’t love me.” What is it that is making him feel that way, or what can I improve on to make him feel different? I have tried in […]
Child Won’t Eat Without Being Nagged
Question: We have a family dinner time, in which we are supposed to sit down together and eat and talk and share our day. My 4-year-old does not eat with out being nagged at and/or fed. He plays around until my husband gets upset and we both end up telling him over and over and […]