I know that people who are against punishment are drawn to Positive Discipline, but they often see only the kind part and take that kindness to the extreme. Why is it that human beings seem most comfortable when thinking in extremes? The pendulum seems to swing back and forth in argument for being very strict […]
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Hugs to Create a Connection
Many of you know that “Hugs” is one of my favorite Positive Discipline Tool Cards. A hug is one of the best ways to create the important theme of Positive Discipline: Connection Before Correction. I have been receiving some great hug stories and have decided to start collecting them and sharing them with you. […]
Children Full of Life
I loved watching this series of five videos, and I think you will too. Be sure to watch all five videos of this amazing teacher (don’t know how to spell his name) as he helps children learn to own and express their feelings, to take responsibility for their actions, to learn empathy and […]
Class Meetings for Preschoolers
Question: At what age can children participate in class meetings? Answer: I do class meetings every morning with my little preschool group (made up entirely of 3.5 yr olds), and it’s really a class meeting/circle time hybrid. Every morning one of the children is the “meeting leader” and starts off our […]
When Should Children be Responsible?
Question: I just found this sight and I already feel so relieved that you may be able to help. I already read e-mail about 10yr old “forgetful” girl. My question is how responsible can I legitimately expect my 10 yr old step-son to be. I believe he “forgets” to do chores right or brush his […]
Different Parenting Styles
Question: Do you have any information that addresses the issue of differing parent styles in the home. ie one parent wants to use the positive parent style but the other wants to use rewards and punishments to control? What can the positive discipline parent do to when dealing with the issues that result from an […]
2 ½ year-old Fears
Question: I recently read your book, Positive Discipline: The First Three Years and I cannot tell you how much better I understand my 2 1/2 year old son! I was hoping you could direct me toward some reading material, or even offer a suggestion though. He is a very bright boy, happy at home. However, […]
Mistakes are Opportunities to Learn
Question: It is only today that I’ve discovered your website, a day after my husband and I have already told our 11 year old son that as a consequence to two pretty severe behavioral issues, he was not going to be able to participate in an upcoming motorcycle race, or to sleep over at a […]
Child Alienating Friends
Question: Hi Jane, My daughter will soon be 8. We have a great relationship and are very close. She is having difficulty at school. Sometimes with her friends she is like a different person to how she is at home, she becomes very bossy and sometimes possessive of her best friends. Unfortunately it is making […]
Defiance: Where does it come from?
Question: Dear Jane: My daughter is 7 3/4. This morning, she left the house and walked to school without saying a word. What is an appropriate disciplinary action for this? I feel that the issues are: 1) Anxiety: in me & her Kindergarten Brother – every morning we walk to school as a family, she […]