I need help in applying the principals of positive discipline in an after school setting with at risk children that are 8 to 11 for the most part. Some are from homes where corporal in the norm and one or two may be from homes where the adults are violent with each other. Most come […]
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8-Year-Old With Classroom Problems
Dear Kristin, I have several Certified Positive Discipline Associates who help me asnwer questions. If you read any of the Positive Discipline books, you will find that we don’t advocate punishment of any kind. Rather we use methods that are respectful and designed to teach life skills that help children develop good character. Christine Haymond […]
Backward Punishment
I am a 2nd grade teacher in the Los Angeles area. Lately there has been a resurgence of giving children standards to write as a form of punishment. Since we struggle to help our children reach grade level in writing, I find this way of punishing a student (making him write) rather backward. I seem […]
Angry, irritated, tone of voice
Q. My ten-year-old daughter speaks with an angry, irritated, tone of voice most of the time. We have discussed it with her. And she says she does not want to talk to us this way–yet the habit persists. We feel we talk to her with respect.The things we have tried include, discussions in family meetings, […]
Power Struggles with a 3 ½ yr. old
Dear Jane, Wow, thank you so much for the good advice on how to respond to the name calling.Your approach is very sensible.I have taken the RCB and Developing Capable People classes and have found them to be very enlightening. I do have another issue with my 3 ½ yr. old daughter, Ellen, that I […]
Sexual Acting Out and Behavior
Question: Recently my 7 ½ year old son had a friend for a sleep-over. While I was downstairs they were lying in the same bed. They kept acting up so bad that finally I separated and made them sleep in separate beds. The friend was very hyper so I lay down with him and talked […]
He hit me, so I had to hit him back.
Question: I have a 2-year-old boy and he is very stubborn. When he is in trouble… I do punish him to sit down but he refuses to sit down. He keeps coming up to me and says sorry, but he is not finished with his punishment. Im confused about spanking my kid. When he tried […]
Jared's Cool-Out Space – A Positive Time-Out Children's Book
by Dr. Jane Nelsen Some dreams take a long time to come true. About 20 years ago I wrote a draft for a children’s book called, “The Gremlin Who Eats Toys That Aren’t Picked Up.” The idea was to write children’s books that would teach Positive Discipline tools to parents while they read adorable picture […]
Routine Charts in China
I have the privilege of sharing another story from China, as told by Elly Zhen. Two years ago, when I started studying on Positive Discipline routine chart, I loved the idea. It took me two years to learn about the mistakes I made during my first attempt. I told my back-then 3.5-year-old baby girl about […]
A Family Meeting in China
A Family Meeting in China (shared with permission) I am Wendy Li, my Chinese name is Li Tao, I come from Chengdu. After learning Positive Discipline, I’ve become a better mom, and a better self. This picture shows my four-year-old daughter carefully taking notes during our first family meeting. Of cause she didn’t know […]