disrespectful-teen.jpg by Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott When parents ask, “How do I motivate my teen?” they usually mean, “How do I get my teen to do what I want? How do I get her to have some balance in her life? How do I get him off the computer, get outside, or do […]
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Another Hug Story – Podcast
mom_hug_podcast.jpg Some of you may know that a Hug is one of my favorite Positive Discipline Tools. During this podcast you will understand why as I interview Beth Whitehead after she sent me the following success story. Dear Jane, As you may remember, I had a situation with my older daughter (3 yrs old) taking […]
Connection Before Correction
connection_web.jpg Extensive research shows that we cannot influence children in a positive way until we create a connection with them. It is a brain (and heart) thing. Sometimes we have to stop dealing with the misbehavior and first heal the relationship. Connection creates a sense of safety and openness. Punishment, lecturing, nagging, scolding, blaming or […]
Teen Getting Poor Grades & Being Suspended
Question: I attended your lecture on Positive Discipline held at Mira Costa on the 21st, because I really need help on where to go from here. I have an almost 13 year old boy who is testing his limits (and mine). What would be the best approach for me in the following instances: He was […]
Morning Problems
sleeping-child-web.jpg Question: I have read your book, Positive Discipline, cover to cover, and have searched your website about morning routine problems but could not find a solution to a certain situation. I have a problem with my 7-year-old daughter that I can’t solve, and can’t find advice for. Andrea is not a morning person. She is […]
What Does Your Child Under Three Really "Know" About "No"?
no-no-web.png An excerpt from the book Positive Discipline The First Three Years Children under the age of three do not understand “no” in the way most parents think they do. (And, a full understanding of “no” doesn’t occur magically when the child turns three. It is a developmental process.) “No” is an abstract concept that is […]
Discipline Without Yelling, Hitting, or Spanking
Question: How can I discipline my children without hitting, yelling or any negative attitudes towards them even when they misbehave or don’t want to listen to me? Answer: Hi. My name is Cheryl Erwin and I am one of the co-authors of the “Positive Discipline” series. I am also a marriage and family therapist who works with […]
Trouble Controlling Chatter in Classroom
yakkers.jpg Question: I teach 1st and 2nd grade (combined classes). I am having trouble finding inventive ways to control the chatter while I (or a student) am trying to talk. Please help! Answer: My favorite suggestion for all classroom problems is to use class meetings to let the kids find solutions. They are good at it. They […]
Parenting and Teenagers
teenager-legs.jpg An excerpt from the Positive Discipline for Teenagers book by Dr. Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott. REMEMBER WHEN YOUR teen was a baby just learning to walk? What a milestone. You didn‘t want to miss any of it, and you were very supportive and encouraging. You would take her little hands in yours […]
Child Discipline: To Punish or Not
by Dr. Jane Nelsen discipline.jpg What do you think of when you hear the word “discipline”? Most people think of punishment. I invite you to think a little deeper starting with the exploration of the long-term results of punishment. When children are punished they do not learn self-discipline. Punishment provides “external” motivation. Self-discipline requires “inner” […]