Question: crying-boy.jpg I just entered the world of Positive Discipline and I love it. I feel like I can be a really great mother—even more than I already am. I feel challenged with my 3 ½ year old! He is very specific about things. If he gets something in his mind, it must be that way, […]
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Interrupting
Question: My husband and I came to one of your seminars in February. One subject you didn’t touch on was interrupting. Our 4 1/2 year old does it all the time. How can we stop it? It drives my husband and me crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks Lisa Answer: b108-a.jpg Hi Lisa, Following is an excerpt from the […]
Curiosity Questions Conversational
by Kelly Gfroerer and Jane Nelsen The root of education is educare—to draw forth. 1. Children will listen to you AFTER they feel listened to. 2. When children hear a command, a signal is sent to the brain that invites resistance. When children hear a respectful question, a signal is sent to the brain to […]
Contribution in the Classroom
by Jane Nelsen and Kelly Gfroerer Students feel belonging (connection) and significance (capable) when they have opportunities to contribute. Think of all the things you do that could be done by your students (bulletin boards, door greeters, even teaching some lessons). Assign these tasks to your students. Verbally appreciate how much they contribute to the […]
Teaching Positive Time Out Helps Students Learn Tools for Self-Regulation
Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, first we have to make them feel worse? —Jane Nelsen Research shows that punitive time-out is ineffective because forced separation from the class denies the student’s basic need for inclusion and belonging. As far back as 2004 the National Association […]
Parent-Teacher-Student Conferences
by Dr. Kelly Gfroerer and Dr. Jane Nelsen Conferences are respectful when parents, teachers, and students are all included. The Parent-Teacher-Student conference provides an opportunity to create a connection between home and school. Have everyone (parents, teacher, and student) come prepared with answers to these questions: What is going well? In what areas […]
Act Without Words for Teachers
pd-tools-for-teachers-book.jpg Below is an excerpt from the book, Positive Discipline Tools for Teachers by Dr. Jane Nelsen and Dr. Kelly Gfroerer. Do you sometimes have the feeling that your students don’t hear a word you say? You are probably right—especially when a mistaken goal is involved. For example, if a student’s mistaken goal is Undue Attention […]
Caring
caring.jpg Maya Angelou once shared, “I have learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Positive Discipline Tools for Teachers help teachers find ways to connect and show they care on a daily basis. Class meetings, giving individual students […]
4 Rs of Recovery From Mistakes
by Jane Nelsen and Kelly Gfroerer, co-authors of Positive Discipline Tools for Teachers Book and Cards Rudolf Dreikurs shared “Making mistakes is human. Regard your mistakes as inevitable instead of feeling guilty, and you’ll learn better.” Dreikurs’ perspective is supported by current day research. For example, Carol Dweck has found that students who perceive mistakes as […]
Problem Solving in the Classroom
Success Story Last week during our class meetings, I noticed a disturbing habit developing among my students. Sometimes they don’t want to switch seats and move away from their best friends, and sometimes they want to be the last one standing (when we do an activity that has us sit down after our turn). Then […]