by Dr. Kelly Gfroerer and Dr. Jane Nelsen goal-disclosure-cartoon.jpg Wait for a calm time (not during conflict) to talk with a student in private. A friendly atmosphere is essential. Ask the student for permission to make guesses about why he or she is behaving in a certain way. Let the student know that he or […]
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Self Care for Teachers
by Dr. Jane Nelsen and Dr. Kelly Gfroerer Taking care of yourself is the best gift you can give your students. Make a list of the things you like to do that feed your heart, your body, your mind, and your soul. Get out your calendar and make time for yourself EVERY day. Give up […]
I Messages
Excerpt from Positive Discipline Tools for Teachers by Dr. Jane Nelsen and Dr. Kelly Gfroerer i-messages-cartoon.jpg Too often students (and adults) blame others for their feelings by saying, “You make me feel _____.” This is not true. No one can make anyone else feel something. They might invite you to feel something, but you always […]
Control Your Behavior for Teachers
Excerpt from Positive Discipline Tools for Teachers by Dr. Jane Nelsen and Dr. Kelly Gfroerer Do you sometimes expect your students to control their behavior when you have not controlled your own? We don’t mean to instill guilt; rather, we want to create awareness. We often catch ourselves behaving in ways we aren’t proud of […]
Kind and Firm for Teachers
Below is an excerpt from Positive Discipline Tools for Teachers by Jane Nelsen and Kelly Gfroerer. As a teacher, do you have a tendency toward being a little too kind, and have difficulty being firm? (You don’t want to be one of those mean, autocratic teachers.) Or are you a little too firm because you […]
Choosing Friends
friends_blog.jpg An excerpt from the book Positive Discipline A-Z Question: I have one child who complains that she doesn’t have any friends. Another child keeps choosing friends I don’t like. How do I help my children become friends with children I approve of? Answer: Understanding Your Child, Yourself, and the Situation We often forget to […]
Back to School: Whose Job is It?
by Dr. Jane Nelsen, Ed.D. bus.gif The back to school honeymoon is beginning. Many children (and teachers) are making vows that this will be their best school year ever. How long will the back to school honeymoon last? That could depend on how you and your children prepare. How can parents help children prepare […]
Positive Discipline Conference and Think Tank
Think Tank I never cease to be amazed at the wonderful people who are attracted to do Positive Discipline work. They are such creative, fun, dedicated, and passionate people who really believe it is possible to create peace in the world through peace in homes and schools. Last week over 100 people who are either Certified […]
Question About Praise
praise-is-like-candy.jpg Question I’m at my wits end with my 13-year-old girl. We have been following Positive Discipline for about 2 years now and it’s changed so much in our house with how we act and speak to our girls, our other daughter is 9. This last month we are having a problem with the “Praise” […]
FRIEND OR PARENT
by Jane Nelsen, co-author of Positive Discipline for Teenagers. friend-or-parent.jpg I just received an interesting question from a journalist wondering if parents could be both a friend and a disciplinarian. Following is my answer: I’m not sure what you mean by disciplinarian and what you mean by friend. When people say, “You should be a […]