Questions on Attention

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2. I'm a father of a 3 1/3 year old boy, and I've become a great fan of your books (particularly the simply titled "Positive Discipline"). In the past few weeks, the approach has revolutionized my parenting and I and my son are far happier than before. The one main issue I still find myself struggling with is the fact that my son needs one of us to be playing with at all times. We've always been quite available, as has been his nanny, and it's come to be something he expects. For all of our sakes, I'd like to encourage greater independence, but I'm not sure of what techniques to use under the overall "positive discipline" approach. Do you have any suggestions?
3. The problem is that he can't sit still in class. He is often out of his seat, making noises, whistling, not paying attention, not staying on task and not completing his classroom assignments. He also is constantly talking back and arguing with the teacher.
4. Undue Attention or Misguided Power?
5. He seems to be more needy of approval and inclusion than his classmates.
6. I think it is to get attention but what can I not be giving her at home to make her feel that she needs to get attention from others?
7. He kicks animals and hurts me or other family members, destroys toys and then will laugh when disciplined. He dares my husband to spank him and laughs at me for attempting to correct him.